Today my husband and I gave Addison her first car. She's named her Ruby. I've never named a car before, but maybe I'm missing out on doing so. It was an emotional day for everyone involved because of the waiting...the surprise...the execution of a surprise. While sitting on the couch tonight after my girl spent her entire evening washing Ruby and cleaning all her parts in the dark, I emplored her to remember this gift. "I will," she said. Isn't that what we all say?
Do you remember the gift of your marriage? Do you remember how excited you were to find your person? The butterflies and balls of emotion clogged your mind at first, but soon gave way to reality. It was the reality that we are all selfish humans who's first instinct is to protect ourselves...to look out for ourselves. It's hard to put somone else first when you are worried about how you may be wronged or hurt. It's natural, this self-preservation. It's innate. What isn't innate is the ability to put someone else above yourself. For mother's it may be easier because the little one is helpless. For heroes it may be easier because they receive gratitude or recognition for their sacrifice. But what about when there is only grief, little or no appreciation and no recipricaton but only more demands? We have forgotten the gift. Its erased as if it never happened.
Humans are notorious throughout history for doing this. Read the Bible. God gave blessings. The people, after a time, forgot about those blessings and rebelled. Whether it be by worshing idols, marrying the enemy or whatever form, they always forget. It's frustration to read about repeatedly and even more unfortunate to experience in person. History repeats itself over and over again.
As I sit here tonight I don't know how to remind my daughter of her gift or the way she is so appreciative right now. I know she will become entitled to her car. She will forget that she never deserved it just because she existed. She received it because we loved her. If you love someone truly, you want nothing more than the best for them. That is the highest form of love and yet the hardest kind to maintain. To give and give with no expectations of anything in return is abnormal to our humanity. It is expressly demonstrated and taught by Jesus himself. His sacrifice was ultimate and yet he dies over and over without end to give us a chance at the very best we could ever imagine. We rebel. We think we know better. We think that the sacrifice wasn't even necessary because our joy on earth is enough. It's not even comparable and yet we try and make it so and convice ourselves of that false fact.
Take a minute and think of your gifts. All the gifts that you were given with no strings attached that were based solely on love. Uneneding, immeasurable love. Unselfish love. Sacrificial love. There are so many and yet there is just ONE.
Oh daughter, this is a car. You will have many cars in your life. It made you cry and you felt ever so thankful. Remember the gift. Remember this place of humbleness and appreciation that you experienced today.
Oh husband, this is a relationship. You will have many relationships in your life but this will be the pinnacle. It made you cry and you felt ever so thankful. Remember the gift as the years march on and the butterflies fade. Remember the place where you were that day it began.
Oh Christian, this is your salvation. You will have many things given to you in life but this is the most valuable and precious sacrifice that will ever be made for you. It made you cry when you accepted it and you were ever so thankful. Remember the gift no matter what waters you trudge through. Remember the place you were on the day you accepted such an amazing gift.
Let us not forget: For by grace you have been saved through faith, and this is not from you; it is the gift of God: it is not from works. so no one may boast. Ephesians 2: 8-9